Any one who knows me, knows that I have ‘Puppy Fever’ like perpetually, forever, it’s never going away. I’m going to end up with 38 dogs and my husband will probably leave me.
Anyways, since yesterday was National Puppy Day… My husband made my dream come true.
Wanna guess? HE GOT ME A PUPPY.
You want to know how I reacted? MENTAL BREAKDOWN.
Me: Still excited but also horrified that I didn’t prepare for this sort of wonderful thing. Don’t get me wrong, I am so so happy but, getting a dog is crazy and requires a lot of thoughts, prayers and maybe some prescription drugs.
Anyways, Meet Miss SCOUT. Our adorable Aussie Mix.
She has THE SWEETEST personality. She is about 10 & a half weeks old and the best craigslist decision anyone could ever make. She’s like to cuddle and is very shy but, we are working on that.
Because I know a lot of you who read this are just like me in the control freak OCD arena… I’m going to give you a break down of everything we had to do before we brought her home.
Find the Right Breed
I’m always doing research on breeds since I’m obsessed with dogs and all that. So I knew that I wanted an Australian Shepherd. They’re loyal, smart and excellent family dogs. However, they are also mischievous and very high energy. Working dogs NEED to be exercised daily.
Tips to help you:
- Look at your lifestyle.
(Are you active? Do you need a family friendly dog? Will you be leaving it alone for long amounts of time? What is the main purpose for you getting a dog?)
- Look at where you live.
( Do you have the space? Will you need a yard? Do you have places to walk your dog nearby?)
- Look at your schedule.
( Do you have the time and energy for that kind of dog? )
These are ALL important factors to take into consideration before even looking for a prospective dog.
Here’s a helpful little quiz to get you started:
Can you afford it?
Dogs are almost more expensive than children. At least for the first couple of months.
When you get a puppy there’s a LOT of maintenance. Lots of ruined carpet, lots of vet visits, lots of shots, lots of toys and beds and collars.
Here’s a list of everything we had to pay for in the first 24 hours:
- Vet Visit -$49.95
- Dog Bed- $5.96
- Dog Crate- $18.86
- Dog Treats & Toys- $20-35
- Potty Training Kit- $19.99
- Food- $20
- Food bowls- $5
- Apartment Deposit- $400
- Collar & Leash – $35
- Miscellaneous- $30
Not to mention all the shots & check ups they’ll still need. Luckily, our clinic (Kaibab animal hospital) has a “puppy plan” that includes all that for only $30 a month!
So make sure you really have the funds to take care of your new best friend.
Also check out petsmarts Puppy Coupon book:
Are you gonna give it a forever home?
This is my biggest anxiety. There are SO MANY “what ifs” that fly through my brain when I think about this.
Dogs are thinking, feeling animals. I’m 100% sure they feel love and they know when we love them! It’s so important to do whatever you can to make a place for your new dog & to know that you’re going to do everything you can to keep them as part of your home forever.
Obviously, if something happens outside of your control and you have to give up your dog that’s okay. Dogs deserve the best life they can possibly have.
So that’s why we’re getting TWO. (Go Big Or Go Home?)
Meet Our Aussie Corgi mix TUCKER.
We pick him up in April & I can’t wait to make these two adorable dogs have the best life ever!
Tell me, am I missing anything?
What are your best training tips? I would love to hear them!
“Of this be sure: you do not find a happy life, you make it.”
– Thomas S. Monson
Finding contentment as a control freak is a difficult task indeed. Life is pretty unpredictable & it’s easy to have mental breakdowns and hyperventilate.
So instead of COMPLETELY shutting down & becoming a couch potato wrapped in fuzzy blankets and sadness for the rest of our lives, what can we do to overcome it?
Going back to my post last week, I wanted to get a little bit more specific about the things I use to help me chill & to practice self care.
If you’re anything like me, Type A, Red personality, absolute insane maniac obsessed with success, these will make you a feel a little salty about doing them but oh so much better after
Finding your chill is ROUGH.
If you’re not dying… it’s fine. You’re fine. It’s fine.
Don’t just take a couple huffs in and out, really take a minute to monitor where your thoughts are.
Give yourself a minute to stop freaking the freak out and really breathe.
I like to go go go so taking a second to breathe is THE WORST. Like why would I do that when I can just throw myself into the issue and fix it?
But, I have definitely found taking time to breathe helps me to approach issues with less of an insane energy and more hope.
Breathing saves lives!
Take a step back & dump your brains
Not gonna lie.. this is my favorite one. I whip out my notebook, grab my favorite pen and furiously write down everything on my mind. Which usually takes me about 15 minutes.
Doing a brain dump can be hard when you’re first starting so here are some ideas to get you started:
-What are you Grateful for?
-What is driving you crazy?
– What are the most pressing things on your to-do list?
-What decisions need to be made? (Pros-cons)
And here’s an awesome post about it if you need more help:
Do something you LOVE
TREAT YO SELF.
Take a bath, journal, create some art, dance in your kitchen, buy some cake and eat it all by yourself.
Give yourself permission to have a little joy and do something you love.
Then proceed to feel awesome for being so good to yourself. (The best way to get a mental self congrats for eating a whole cake)
It’s important to give our brain a break every once and awhile, have a little distraction so we can come back to our issues with a different mindset and a little more happy.
I love this post about self care and why it’s important:
Stop. Stop rolling your eyes. I get it. Working out is NOT the ideal way to do self care.
But when you’re a control freak and you have all the pent up energy of an insane person cause.. control. WORK THAT BODYYY.
It helps your hormones chill. It helps your body chill. It helps your brain chill.
Seriously working out may be the answer to everything… sad but true.
Get your blood flowing and watch magic happen. (Just do some yoga at least)
To help you really understand why working out is crazy important and definitely linked to mental health.. here’s a little post about it:
Make a realistic plan
I lied.. THIS is my favorite one. Time to let your creative planning brain shine through. Grab your brain dump notebook, some colorful pens and get to work! Create a list of what needs to happen, make some small goals to achieve and become clear on what you really need/want to accomplish.
Its okay to change the plan up a little bit, its okay to release those things that don’t serve you. Be real with yourself about what you can and can’t handle.
I promise to write a little bit more on goal setting and how to achieve your goals late this week!
If you need a cute new planner for all of your plans & you’re a lil extra, this one is SO cute:
I hope these tips help you get a little more centered on the important stuff and help you chill the heck out too! Sometimes our plans might not go our way BUT we just have to trust that it’s all for our own good.
You got this babes.
I want to hear what you do for Self Care!
Share with me in the comments 🙂
I am a little bit of a CONTROL FREAK
Let me show you why…
Scenario: Your life is going good. Your house is clean. Your finances are in order. All of a sudden.. A huge opportunity drops into your lap (like your DREAM opportunity). BUT you have to move, take some financial risks and live completely differently than you have been. (Not to mention, your house won’t be clean for the next three months)
If this makes you excited & overwhelmed all at the same time… AND you already started planning out how that’s going to work in your head, you might be a control freak too!
I’m the kind of girl that has a 10 year plan and likes to keep it updated in a google drive spreadsheet.
A little background for this scenario: I’m currently in school for a Bachelors in Strategic Communications & Marketing, My husband is serving in the bishopric at a young single adults ward for our church and I have a small business I run out of our home. We’ve been super comfortable.. But definitely not living our best life.
All these things are part of the plan, right?
So you can imagine my feels when the scenario described above occurred in MY life. Here I am, having just set all my 2018 goals, excited for the upcoming year… you know all the plans. This was NOT part of them.
But after lots of discussion & prayer we knew that although it wasn’t my plan, this opportunity was God’s plan for us. We’re Moving to Phoenix, AZ!
(I’m already obsessing over the amount of cacti & succulents I’m going to possess)
I had a mini meltdown. I was Ecstatic. Terrified. Overwhelmed. My brain immediately went into planning mode.
-Financial aid for the upcoming school year was still up in the air.
-I had to somehow get into the rest of my general classes this semester for my associates to transfer.
-All my classes had to be online so that we could move in the middle of the school year.
-We have to find *affordable* housing in Arizona in the next 6 weeks.
-Not to mention, we had to find someone to take over our lease or end up paying $1500 more dollars for an uninhabited place.
Etc. etc. etc.
There’s a lot going on and a lot to consider… obviously, as with any move or big change in your life.
My inner control freak is losing her crap. FOR REAL.
But let me tell you, when you are on the right path, heaven showers down some miraculous blessings. All of those worries I listed earlier, have been dealt with or are in the process of figuring themselves out. Sometimes prayer is the most efficient way to get things done.
I’ve spent a lot of my life halfheartedly trusting that God will take care of things.. Even though HE ALWAYS DOES.
But, recently I have been noticing how God is slowly teaching me to roll with the punches and how His plan is ALWAYS always better.
Trusting in Him helps us to drop all the cares of the world and just let it happen. I’m not saying that we should just stand by and watch our life unfold or just be the victim of our own circumstances. No, we need to include our Heavenly Father in a more intimate way with our life plans and TRUST HIM.
Why the heck don’t we trust the all powerful, all knowing being in our lives? What kind of ridiculous notion is that?
I know for me, as a control freak I tend to like things my way… I have a plan and that’s how things should always work. If and When things don’t fall perfectly into place within that plan, I tend to shut down and panic. (I’m working on it)
So here are 5 Things I do to chill my inner control freak:
This is probably THE most important & helpful thing you could possibly do when you’re panicking is stop, drop and PRAY. Talking with heaven always helps me keep eternal perspective, which is the best kind of perspective to have when you feel like you might be losing control.
- Brain dump
I keep a notebook just for this purpose. I find writing it all out to be very helpful, even if it’s just a word cloud or a pros and cons list. Get all the ideas and plans out on paper and THEN organize.
If you haven’t ever done a brain dump, here’s an article that I found helpful:
I love love love todo lists! I even make to do lists for different sections of my life. For example: a house to do list, a school work to do list and a business to do list. It helps me keep track of all the sections of my life and what needs to get done. PLUS it’s very fun to check things off lists.
- Small goals
I am a FAN of productivity. Its low key my crack cocaine… but when I’m not productive or if I feel I haven’t “made it” that day, I get really down on myself. Like I said, it’s a drug. SO I’ve worked on it and found that setting small goals for myself on the daily and making sure they’re small enough to accomplish in 24 hours really helps my self esteem!
- Visualize & Let go
I know visualizing may sound a little crazy but, our minds are AMAZING. Visualizing what you want in life helps you to get the energy you need to get there & visualizing helps you release your intense need for total control. Visualize what you want and then release it into the world!
Here’s a fabulous article about it:
Here’s a cute little info graphic to help you keep track:
The biggest thing is that we trust God… through all the thick & all the thin. We must trust Him through all the dark places, believing with all our hearts that He will show us the light at the end.
I’ve been learning this over and over again this month. Heavenly Father has been lovingly guiding me through the wreckage of my own plans to show my HIS, which is so much better than I could have ever imagined.
How do YOU deal with your inner control freak?
I want to know what tips & tricks you use!
Leave them in the comments below 🙂
P.S. Here’s a FABULOUS planner to help you balance all the things!